10 Years? No Way!

This would be me not long after graduation. With Lenny Kravitz. (Sort of)

Check em out, blogging 2 days in a row! Wha--?!?


I wanted to blog about this before I got all fired up about the Great SAHM/WM Debate of 2012 post. So, anyways....


Facebook has informed me that my 10 year high school reunion is this year. (Well, Facebook itself didnt tell me, it was some old classmates.... ON facebook. Ok, you get it. Moving on...) I find it completely ridiculous that its been 10 years already. TEN YEARS. Woah.


In many ways I still feel like the awkward dork that I was then. Yet, I feel old. (Did I mention I had to google a slang word the other day?!?) Like.... really old. Ill be 29 this year. Thats almost 30. MmmHmm.


Directly following graduation I had originally planned to join the Air Force, travel the world, fall madly in love with a man in uniform and live happily ever after. Reality had a different route for me. I stayed in my hometown (17701, yessa!) a few years, moved to New Mexico, met my (now ex) husband, moved back to PA, then moved to Indiana, got married, then moved back to New Mexico, back to Indiana, got divorced, met Joe, moved to Indianapolis, had a baby, got married and became a stepmom.


Whew!


Its kind of crazy to think about, all that's happened. I mean... you think so much happens in the 4 years you spend in high school and then you look back over the last 10 and those 4 years seemed like the blink of an eye. Does that make sense?


Anyway, that's coming up. Im going to try to make an effort to go. A lot of people I went to school with will be my lifelong friends. I havent seen some of them since graduation and I want to see what everyones been up to.


Oh, by the way.... Im still living happily ever after.


;)

Hot Button Topics - Stay at Home Moms vs Working Moms

Just adding this to have a cute pic... adorable, right?!

So while Joe was out with his dad last night and Delaney had fallen asleep, I decided to attempt to watch some of the shows piling up on our dvr. After scanning a few episodes of Rachael Ray I settled on watching some Anderson. (Because seriously... hes adorable!)


I was getting comfy in the La-Z-Boy with a cup of Sprite when I heard the headline "Are Stay at Home Moms Lazy?"


Ugh. This cannot end well.


I was annoyed that they cut the first 15 minutes off (We live right outside of Indianapolis and the Colts got a new GM or something I guess?) and when it came back there was a woman talking about how SAHMs (That means stay at home mom) are lazy, fat and set bad examples for their kids.


Ok... I may be slightly lazy at times, and I may be fat, but I do NOT set a bad example for my kids.


The episode goes on in a sort of Bulldog/Chihuahua type fight. The working moms basically bashing the SAHMs and the latter trying to defend their decision to stay home.

Ooooh Child. Is this bitch for real?

Now. Ive been a stay at home mom for almost 2 years. Ive had 2 short term jobs in the last few months. I would never put anyone down for the decision they choose. If you choose to be a stay at home, thats great. I see so many benefits in that and its something I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to do. If you decide to work, thats great, too! Its very rewarding to earn money and have daily interaction with adults.


Some people just arent made to stay at home. Its just not what they want to do. That doesnt mean that they love their kids any less. Some moms need to work to make ends meet. Some people choose to work from home to get the best of both worlds.


I have loved every second of staying home with my kids. Im happy. Growing up I always wanted to be the mom who stayed home and had dinner ready at the same time everyday, had a spotless home and still had time to socialize and have a part time career. The reality is- Im not that kind of mom. I get everything done that needs done. I like to have playdates and get OUT of the house. Working was hard, even tho my youngest is almost 2 and is just fine without me right by her side 24/7.


Where we are right now, I would say the perfect situation would be for my husband (who is much more comfortable working OUTside of the home) to work fulltime and for me to get a part time job when he would be home.


I think that works for US, not for everyone. For someone to go on a national television show and talk so harshly on a group of people like that... How dare they. They only made themselves look foolish.


So at the risk of having this turn ugly, I really want your opinion. I want to know what YOU think. Are you a SAHM or do you work outside the home? Are you happy? Would you change anything?

(If youre having problems commenting please check out this post.)

Here, There & Everywhere - A Very Scatterbrained Holiday

Hey- look! Its me! Have I been a crappy blogger lately or what?! With the holidays and all Ive been occupied in the mind! Speaking of holidays...

I hope you all made wonderful memories and had the happiest holiday ever (whatever one you celebrate). We were really looking forward to this Christmas, and it did not disappoint. We kept up some traditions and probably started some new ones. The girls had a great time opening their gifts from Santa and Joe and I loved every minute of watching them and sharing in their excitement! (Yes, Im aware of how soccer mom-y that sounded)

It's now been 2 weeks since Christmas day.... Our tree is still up and the living room still looks like this when Delaney gets into all her things! Luckily (?) we live in a small enough area that clean up is relatively quick.


Along with the Christmas came the new year. We spent it quietly and at home. As we ushered in the new year I was nursing a toothache, Delaney was moody and Joe was ready for bed most of the night. But- it ended up being a pretty good night (many ibuprofen later).


In saying good-bye to 2011 and hello to 2012, it also got me thinking.... This is the time of year everyone goes on and on about their resolutions and then inevitably break them within days. I would like to say I made the resolution NOT to make a resolution this year.. and then I saw myself in the bathroom mirror in the middle of the night. And so Ive decided to become healthy this year. I cant use the "I just had a baby"excuse anymore because my "baby" will be 2 in a few weeks. Its time to change my bad habits and become accountable for everything that goes into my mouth.


Besides, Ive done pretty well with trying to get out of my "Mom Look" (at  least make-up wise). This is just something else can prove to myself I can do.

So... this post has been about as scattered as my thoughts have been lately. Whatever. Y'all get the idea. Sooooo.... Ill try to get better at blogging, too. Because I cant keep all my loyal  readers waiting. HAHA!


Happy 2012, peeps!!!

Thankfulness and Things

So... Im just going to start this off by saying it's December 7. I feel like in the time it took me to apply my face (Booyah- update to this post) it went from New Years day to December 7! Wicked!

A few weeks ago America celebrated Thanksgiving (And our great neighbors up north celebrated a month prior). To be honest, many people focus on the feast and football games rather than things they are actually thankful for. I'm not going to turn this post into one of the obnoxious posts on facebook that people will repost over and over and over (Dont get me started), instead Ill do what I love doing best: Talk about myself.

We've had a year full of ups and downs. But there were more ups. I took a few minutes while laying in bed one day to think... like, REALLY think. What am I thankful for? Its a pretty generic question, but making a mental list made me feel pretty fantastic about life.

Im thankful for the health and happiness of my family and friends. Not only my immediate family and the friends I see often. Rather ALL of my fantastic circle of amazing people. We're all blessed with our health, which is most important above all. Everything else is just icing on the cake.

Im thankful for the ability to have a place to live and food to eat. No matter what financial issues arise, we are still rich. (Just maybe not money rich... which would be awesome. But you know... the other kind of rich, y'know?)

Im thankful for the opportunity to speak whatever I feel like on this blog and have people actually read it. (You are reading... right?) When you think about people in foreign lands who dont have the freedom to say what they want or do what they want... it really makes you grateful for living in such a place where we have rights.

As I list these things that make my heart happy, I also feel sad for those who dont have the luxuries that I do. Im not talking about the iphones, ipads, computers and bajillions of toys and gadgets that littler my home.... (That kind of made me sound like an asshole, huh?) but instead of everything I just named.

Got me thinking.... I should express my gratitude EVERY day, not just the last Thursday of November.

Remember to reflect on the things that youve been blessed with. When you think times are tough.... they could always be tougher.

Feliz Navidad, Yall!!!

Let's be honest, readers.... The holidays are coming. Whether we want to admit it or not- they are full steam ahead and on their way. Usually I go about my business, forgetting what day it is half the time until I hear something on facebook or from a friend. It happened again this year- just yesterday.

My friend Melissa mentioned on her facebook page (Seriously- best page ever. Check it out here - Cooking With Mel ) that Thanksgiving was next week. *BLINK* Yeah. Next freaking week. Once again the holidays have snuck upon me. Touché, Hallo-Thanks-Mas. Touché indeed.

Tabitha Fact #739: Tabitha LOVES the holidays. Despite the stress of shopping and financial issues and cooking and you name it.... I LOVE this time of year. The music and cheesy tv movies.... the family get togethers and traditions... I love it ALLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!

So, I want to hear from YOU. Are you in the holiday spirit already or are you ready for them all to be over already? Are you finished shopping or are you doing everything homemade this year? Lets hear it, folks!

Talkin 'Bout Friendssssss Foreverrrrrrrr........

 

Alas.... we are married!!! Everything was beautiful and went better than I could have hoped. I wont bore you with the details.... thats not what this post is about. Its about friendship. 

None of the events from the last week would have ran as smoothly as they did without the help from my friends. From day one they were there asking me what they could do. They listened to me cry, whine and bitch and never once hung up on me. As I changed my mind about EVERYTHING a minimum of 77 times, they never once avoided me or "accidentally lost my number". They did the set up for the reception as I was running 40 minutes late, setting up tables and organizing everything. And they were the last ones to leave with me after cleaning it all up.

It really doesnt matter how long Ive known them, they all are special to me. I havent kept in contact with them like I should, but you know that overly used quote on facebook "It is said that true friends can go for a long time without speaking and never question the friendship. These types of friends pick up like it was just yesterday, regardless of how long it has been or how far away they live and they don't hold grudges. They understand life is busy but you will always love them."..... yeah. Whoever said that knows how life gets. 

Its funny... I always miss my friends. Like, everyday. But I didnt understand exactly HOW MUCH I missed them until they left. This even goes for friends who live closer.... we dont get together enough. Or talk enough. (Or if youre like me, text enough). 

I know not all of my amazing friends could be here this past weekend. And I love them all the same. Im going to make more of an effort to be in better contact with the fabulous people in my life.... Ask yourself the same question... "Could I be closer with my friends?" Theyre always going to be there for you.... even when youre pushing crazy, indecisive bridezilla status. :)

To my friends: I love you. Thanks for putting up my my crazy ass. Youre all winners.

In the end.... its all about love. Ya dig?

"We met some time ago

When we were so young
We've been through thick and thin
We lost, we've tied, we've won

Friends Forever (We'll be friends forever)
With you everywhere (With you everywhere)
Friends forever (We'll be friends)
Always will be friends (Always will be friends)

If you're down,
I'll pick you up,
I'll never let you fall.
If you ever need someone,
I'm waiting for your call.

Friends Forever (We'll be friends)
With you everywhere
Talkin bout Friends forever (Always will be there)
We'll be there (We'll be there)

Through it all, hangin' tough,
We'll stay side by side.
We'll be friends forever,
Til' the end of time.

Friends Forever (We'll be friends)
With you everywhere
Talkin bout Friends forever (Always will be there)
We'll be there (We'll be there)
Yeah, yeah friends. (Friends forever)
Always be friends. (With you everywhere)
We'll be friends together. (Friends forever)
Yes we will, (Always will be there there)
Yes we will, (Will be there)
Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oohhhh."

How to Comment on This Here Little Bloggy Thingy

Its no secret... I LOOOOOVE feedback. I love comments, I love emails. I love it all.


Some of you have told me youre having trouble commenting and its not letting you post. There are a few "rules" I guess you could say to posting. Ill point them outwith links that will make it easier for you to comment.


The first way to comment is by having a google account.I say the easiest way is to get a gmail address, you can use that for anything and it connects you to the whole Google universe! You can get a gmail account by clicking Here.


Another way is by having a livejournal, which is like an online diary. I love sites like this. You can get one by clicking Here.


You can also have a woodpress blog account. Looking back it may have been easier for me to have this blog on wordpress, making it easier for a lot of things. I may at some point convert this blog to wordpress, but for right now Im happy here at Blogger. :) You can get a wordpress blog by clicking Here.


Another way is by having a typepad blog. Im not too familiar with them, but you can learn more by clicking Here.


If you have an AIM account that will also make you able to comment. AIM is a messenger service that some people use. If youre interested you can find out more by clicking Here.


Almost done, I promise!!!


The final way seems pretty cool, if I must be honest. Its called OpenID and it looks like you use one sign in for many sites. Ill have to make myself familiar with it, but you can sign up by clicking Here.

I hope that helps. Personally- I would say gmail is the best way to go... but thats just me. Im sorry youre basically forced to sign up for another account just to comment, but comments are fun! And lets face it, peer pressure is real. And all the cool kids comment. Just sayin......